The Surprising Issues That Can Cost A Marriage

It seems that it’s more common these days for marriages to end in a divorce than couples sticking it out until they are older. Many grandparents and older generations have marriages spanning years. But today it seems it’s easier to walk away than work on the commitment you made.

There are a lot of causes of divorce, but perhaps you may find that you are reaching for the family law solicitors numbers too quickly. Some marriages can be resolved with good old-fashioned communication. Here are some of the surprising issues that cause a marriage to end and a few tips to avoid it if you find yourself in that situation.

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Young age

It may seem obvious, but people who marry in their late teens are more likely to have a marriage end in divorce than someone in their 20’s or older. By about age 22 the percentage rate falls significantly. It would appear that the level of maturity has a lot to do with these marriages ending sooner than intended. Other than delaying marriage there isn’t much that can be done to avoid a young marriage ending in divorce. Of course, there are couples out there who have beaten the odds and are still going strong. If you married young and are thinking about calling time on your married life just take a moment to go back to that age you were when you made the commitment. What was it that made you do it in the first place? Try and remember what you loved about each other.

Insecurity

Having either one or both of you insecure in a relationship isn’t particularly healthy. It’s quite surprising that feeling insecure would be a reason a marriage would end. This may have a lot to do with a couple not communicating how they are feeling. Health issues could also have an effect causing depression and anxiety towards your marriage. Communication is key to resolving issues of insecurity. A lot of the time your partner may just need reassurance. It is advisable not to get frustrated in the situation but to be there to offer support.

A change of circumstance

If all of a sudden you are struggling financially or if circumstances have changed, then these factors can have a strain on marriage. One of the main marital vows is “through better or worse” meaning you should be able to stick it out whatever the circumstance. Sadly, some people can’t cope with the strain a financial situation can put on a marriage. Communication is another way to resolve the issues. Loss of jobs or being to blame for a change of circumstance can make you feel inferior. But a marriage means you are part of a team, and that’s exactly how you will get through the tough time.

As much as these issues are surprising reasons a marriage may end, with a bit of time, effort and communication they could be resolved. I hope this inspires you to work on your differences.

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