Ways To Make Your Life As Mummy, Easier

Whether you’re a Mum to five children, or you’ve just got the one special little bundle of joy, one thing we all have in common is that we’re constantly running around after them. Being a Mum is an exhausting job in itself, and then of course there’s the housework, our jobs, our spouses, and also trying to fit time in for yourself. One thing that all parents are looking for, is how to make their lives easier with little hacks here and there, especially when it comes to cleaning. So take a look at these fabulous ways to make your life as Mummy, easier.

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Invest in Tougher Products

While it’s understandable that you want to save every spare penny, buying store own brands of cleaning products might not always get the job done. Those hard dried stains on your hob just won’t come off with a simple spray of antibacterial now! Take a look at these highly sought-after products to make your life much easier when cleaning:

  • Elbow grease – and not the hard work kind either. This product is amazing for use on hard surfaces and even fabric! Simply spray, wait a little while, and wipe clean.
  • Zoflora is a disinfectant that comes in a range of incredible smells. It can be used to go over surfaces that wouldn’t otherwise smell nice. With so many uses for Zoflora, and at such a cheap price, you can have your home germ free and smelling amazing in no time!
  • The Pink Stuff is a creamy paste that’s perfect for cutting through grime and grease. Popularly used on oven doors to make them come up completely clean, it can be used pretty much anywhere around the kitchen. Again, simply let it do its job and wipe away with a damp cloth. Job done!

Modify Your Home

Sometimes, the worst job when it comes to cleaning is trying to get stubborn stains out of carpets, so why have them in every room? Consider putting oak laminate flooring by Factory Direct Flooring in the rooms that your children (and you) eat and perform messy play in so that you’re able to simply sweep up, mop, and still have time for that cup of coffee you’ve been craving all day. The same goes for surfaces in your home, try to keep them easy to wipe clean so that you’re not spending hours cleaning up after everybody, and you can enjoy time with them instead.

Consider Alternative Ways of Keeping your Home Clean

Fed up of vacuuming? Yeah, pretty much everyone is these days! However, you can now invest in a robotic vacuum to do all of the work for you! Simply set it to the room(s) you want, and let it do the work for you! All you’ll have to do is empty it from time to time!

Get Everyone Involved

Finally, rather than playing maid to everyone, why not get them all involved? Create chore charts for your children. Teaching your children to take responsibility of chores at a young age will help them later in life, and also give you even more time to sit with your feet up and a mug of hot coffee.

In case of emergency: What to do if you think your child needs medical attention

It is something no parent likes to think about: their child going into hospital. While going in for an emergency treatment or checkup can be a stressful experience, it is something every parent needs to read up on so that they can keep their child safe and healthy. I have outlined some essential information to read up on so that in the event you do need to rush them in, you won’t be wasting any precious time and can get your child seen to as soon as possible. 

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When to go to A&E

The first thing to consider when you think your child may need urgent medical attention is what symptoms to look out for that are a cause for concern. Things such as a high temperature, difficulty breathing, a bad fall where they potentially hit their head, loss of consciousness, are all things that you need to be vigilant for and act on quickly. The other thing to look for, which may seem initially obvious, is what your child is telling you about any pain they are in. As a parent there is so much you have to deal with and a consequence of that is that every now and again you will push something your child said aside and dismiss it. The thing you need to do here is to simply ask some easy follow up questions and keep a mental note of if your child has complained of this symptom before, if this is the case they do indeed need a trip to A&E.

Keep calm and carry on

If you do need to make the trip to the hospital, this can be a distressing time for a child who perhaps doesn’t understand exactly what is going on. To this end, it is a good idea to find strategies on how to keep your child calm in these circumstances so that you limit how potentially upset your little one may become. A good idea is to pack a small bag with you before you leave for the hospital that includes some snacks and drinks, alongside some books, toys, and games to keep them well fed and entertained. By providing your child with some distraction you will give them the opportunity to be calm until they can be seen.

Knowing your rights

When you see a doctor, be it your local GP or at the hospital, your child is legally required to receive the best care possible and be treated with the utmost respect. If, when you are in A&E, you find that your child is not being taken seriously, or the that the care they are receiving is subpar, then you may want to look into pursuing a case of medical negligence. The Medical Negligence Experts can help by giving you legal advice and representation so you can get some justice.

Taking your child to the A&E is always a scary moment but knowing the early signs of illness and how to prepare in advance, you will be able to make the process go smoothly.

Teenager’s First Holiday with Friends & being Grateful for Social Media

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So the time has come. My 18 year old son has gone off on his first holiday abroad.

When children are small, you can’t imagine them doing something like this. Nor can you imagine EVER allowing them to… the thought of it is just too much.. so scary and worrying and it’s like they’ll never be old enough to even consider it anyway….. Our babies being in a foreign land without us to look after them and make sure they’re safe? No way!

I know we’ve heard it before but feelings don’t change just because children grow up. I still see my gorgeous, precious baby boy when I look at Teen. I still worry about him every waking moment… now more than ever! At least when they’re small we know where they are all the time! When they’re out there in the big wide world it’s scary for us parents!

But we have to let go. Unfortunately.

Teen is an actual adult now. Not that he acts like one you understand. He’s still incredibly stupid at times and does silly things.. I could write a post as long as my arm listing daft things he’s done and situations he’s got himself into…. he drives me nuts!

The day before his holiday he bleached his hair! It turned a lovely (not) shade of yellow which made him look like a right weirdo but he thought it was brilliant, and of course he’s right when he says it’ll grow out in a matter of weeks! He likes to push boundaries in all aspects of life and I guess when we were young, we all did crazy things too… it’s all part of growing up!

Eminem springs to mind!

At the same time though, Teen can be sensible when he needs to be and can certainly look after himself, as well as anyone else. So I’m hoping he has this sensible hat on most of the time (hmmm) he’s away and keeps his wits about him because being on holiday with a load of mates, drinking and most likely going a bit crazy… I do worry, a LOT!

He’s gone to Outlook Festival in Croatia. Not just a holiday then, A FESTIVAL!!! There’s been boat parties booked and DJ’s lined up that he can’t wait to see… there are loads of people going that he knows, girls and boys, not just his little group, which makes me feel a bit better… safety in numbers and all that… but it DOES sound like it’s going to be one long, alcohol fuelled, insane week of paryting! (I’m a bit jealous, ha!).

He’s been so excited about it! He wanted to go to this particular festival last year but he wasn’t old enough. Had to be eighteen. Not sure I would’ve been comfortable with that though, he seemed so much younger last year…. but he didn’t go so that’s ok! This week I spent my time making sure he had everything he needed, all his clothes were washed and ironed (I spoil him), and he’d packed everything. I’d made lists for him so he didn’t forget stuff and generally fussed around, feeling anxious.

His flight was very early in the morning and he was staying at a friends house the night before as they were all getting a taxi from there. I have to admit to not sleeping a wink, worrying that he’d forgotten something, but, and this is certainly a plus side to having social media…. I was checking his SnapChat continuously and could see he’d got to the airport, checked in and was eating the obligatory airport fry up for breakfast! Phew!

He messaged me from the plane when he got on to let me know they were taking off and then when they landed, bless him. I was glad of this. How parents coped in the past with no mobile phones is beyond me!

I’ve been keeping up with everything so far via his SnapChat and Instagram. I’ve seen inside their villa, the beach, the DJ’s, the amazing looking festival at night and the drunk friends haha! Feeling thankful for social media right now…. it’s such a godsend in times like these. When teenagers start going out and about, no matter where it’s to, just being able to see some kind of update somewhere means that they’re ok. Peace of mind. We’ve also been messaging here and there and I can confirm he’s having a great time!

Of course he ran out of money fairly early on…. I’m annoyed that he hadn’t budgeted at all but I’m not surprised one bit. I received lots of nice phone calls and Face-times that day, buttering me up so he could ask me to transfer him some money!! Teenagers are REALLY good at this! I got the ‘But I can’t buy any food and I’m starving’ spiel and the ‘I’ll pay you back I promise’ line that I hear more times than literally any other sentence known to man! Again, technology comes to the rescue in the shape of banking apps on our mobile phones, so I was able to transfer some money to him instantly and he could immediately see it in his account. A friend of mine used to work in a travel agency years ago and she said the most common thing that happened in her store was parents coming in to send money to their teenagers who were on holiday!!!! At least I didn’t have to leave the house! He WILL be paying me back though 😉 Famous last words!

Anyway, he’s due back soon. Thank goodness! Not sure I could afford for him to stay out there any longer hehe! I’ve been keeping up with Outlook Festival hashtag itself on Insta, Snapchat and Twitter… it’s funny seeing lots of random people who I know will be there with, or least in the same vicinity as my boy, giving me some great insight. I just wish I had all his mate’s Snapchat accounts so I could nosey at those, ha… a bit stalkery I know but that’s what you need to resort to as a parent of a Teen….  I used to insist on knowing his passwords when he was a younger teen but they get to a certain age and you obviously can’t do this any longer… they do need their privacy, much to my dismay! Of course I would never add his mates on social media…. they would laugh in my face and probably think I was creepy!

I can’t wait to see him upon his return and give him a big squeeze and kiss! He’ll be so happy to be back home but will probably need to sleep for a week… meanwhile I’ll be ploughing through his washing! I don’t care though, we’ve all missed him so much and all I want is for him to be home safe and sound.

Another milestone reached and passed in my son’s life!

The Real Cost of Motoring

I need a new car.

In fact, that’s an understatement. I am DESPERATE for a new car and have been wanting one seriously for at least a year! My current car was an executive model and in mint condition when we bought it… and it was perfect for when my twins came along. We needed a 7 seater. But fast forward 7 years and with four kids crashing in and out of it most days… it’s fair to say it’s pretty hammered now! And unfortunately, it simply costs too much to run.

Researchers found the typical driver will spend nearly seventy thousand pounds on fuel and rack up a bill of forty grand on MOTs, servicing and repairs in a lifetime! Crazy or what? 

Petrol is my big bugbear. I spend an absolute fortune each week to get the huge 3.8litre engine going, and I don’t need to! I need to downsize I think.

Parking alone sees the typical driver spend just £12.15 on parking charges, but over a driving lifetime of 64 and a half years, this will mount up to an incredible £9404.

The research, by affordable car hire company autoeurope.co.uk reveals that British motorists will drive over half a million miles in a lifetime – the equivalent of 22 times round the earth! They will also fork out £168,880, on running costs of vehicle ownership, have 1,935 rows – and 2,709 episodes of road rage in a lifetime.

Its seems that the burden of car ownership is hitting drivers hard and AutoEurope research suggests that running a car is a huge financial commitment. What motorists will spend on repairs and fuel costs alone could buy a home in most parts of the UK, not to mention tax and insurance.

A spokesman for autoeurope.co.uk said: “The burden of car ownership is hitting drivers hard and our research proves that running a car is a huge financial commitment. Renting a car instead is miles cheaper in comparison – whether that’s just for one day, or a long-term rental – we offer affordable rates on car hire without the added worry of depreciation and the additional running costs that often comes with owning your own vehicle.”

Hmm… so could this be the answer I’m looking for? I spend an absolute fortune on petrol and insurance at the moment…. would I really be paying more if I went for this option? I won’t have insurance to think about and the petrol is obviously going to be a fraction of the price, especially if I was to go for a much smaller car. It’s certainly worth looking into.

In the meantime, check out this fun infographic which shows some lighthearted driving stats!

The cost of motoring

 

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So sad that my daughter has left Primary School

The last photo of my Girl in her Primary school uniform (sob)

I knew I’d be like this. I’m such an emotional wreck when it comes to things like this!

This year I had two emotional ‘Leavers Assemblys’ to attend.

My twins finished Year 2, which means they’ll be moving on to the Junior school. It’s separate to the Infants so it feels like a big deal. And it is. It means my boys are growing up.

I cried the whole way through their assembly. Yes, because of all the feelings that stir with the realisation that this is the end of their time at the Infants, but for me, also, it was because my shy twins stood right at the front and sang their little hearts out!

In any kind of sharing assembly they’ve done in the past, they’ve hidden. They’ve been so shy that they would literally go to pieces and crumble before my eyes…. they’d curl up and cringe and want to be invisible. It was always painful to watch. They hate any sort of attention. To them, they would’ve felt as though every parent was looking at THEM. No matter what I said, or how their teacher’s tried to help, nothing worked.

So to see them standing there with their fellow Year 2 peers, singing away, my heart was puffing out and bursting with pride! It was amazing. That in itself signified a massive milestone for my tiny boys.

The ‘Leaver’s Song’ is incredibly heart wrenching, describing how they are moving on and loving the friendships they’ve formed…. how they’re proud of things they’ve learned and about the new path they’re about to take in the world. I can’t understand how anyone would fail to be moved to tears by it!

My daughter sang it too.

She’s in Year 6 and it was even more poignant for her as she’s leaving the school for good.

The school where she’s been incredibly happy and made some lovely friends. She doesn’t remember a time when she didn’t go to that school. It’s been somewhere she went every day for seven years!

My Girl’s very first day at school in Reception.. aged 4!

I knew I would find it difficult but I haven’t been prepared for how hard it would hit me once she had left.

The last few weeks of term were crazy manically busy, accumulating in the Year 6 Leaver’s Party!

But first on Friday we had the Leaver’s assembly. It was very emotional. We were taken on a journey of their time at the school. Lots of photo’s lit up on the big screen in the hall from the projector. Stories were told and quite early on, some of the girls were in tears. One of my daughter’s friends stood up to sing a song but she couldn’t get the words out.

This set me off.

Within moments, my daughter was crying and it was all I could do to stop myself running to the stage to comfort her. There were a few songs, then the Leaver’s song again.

I sat there looking at her through tears in my eyes. The words cutting through me like a knife.

I didn’t want this to be it. I didn’t want this to be the last time she would be at her school or sit there with those children. I didn’t want this to be the last time she would ever wear that uniform and look this young. I wanted it all to stop, for time to go back so she could stay here a bit longer.

The girls all clung to each other afterwards. It was so so sad.

But the day ahead for them was a busy one. They had all the fun shirt signing to do before heading off on the traditional London bus ride around our local town, then finally ending up at their Leaver’s Disco organised by us parents! Their families were invited down for a BBQ later where we stayed until around 10pm when it finished.

My daughter and some friends from Year 6 enjoying their party.

It was a great evening. The kids had so much fun and it was lovely for us Mum’s to have this last evening all together. Many of the kids are going to different high schools so it was the end of an era for us too and we all got a bit emotional.

My daughter was tearful in the car on the way home bless her. But they have all vowed to stay in touch and I guess it will be much easier than it used to be, with everyone having smart phones. They already have lots of Whatsapp groups that they’re all in so really they will still feel close!

For me though, it really hit me the next day.

The full on craziness of the past few weeks had given way to an eerie, empty feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I picked up her uniform and stared at it for a while. She would never wear it again. Ever.

I glanced over at her sitting on the sofa, absorbed in her phone. My baby girl. No longer at our beloved primary school.

It seemed so final.

Everything is about to change. So much more than she could ever realise.

I’ve got a 17 yr old so I know only too well how much she will change in the next year. High school does that do a child and I’m not ready to go through that with her just yet.

I don’t want to.

I want to keep her like this for a little bit longer please if I may?

She is on the cusp of growing into a young lady but right now she is still so young in her mind, still so childlike and so much fun. She still loves cuddles and to play with her little twin brothers…. In another year that might not be the case.

We spent a lazy day together. I watched her play in the garden… she’s grown so much recently. Not so little anymore.

When I tucked her up in bed that night, I kissed her, squeezed her hard then went into my own bedroom and sobbed.

I sobbed and sobbed. Uncontrollably.

I want to stall time. It’s going way too fast and I can’t stop it. I don’t want her to grow up and I don’t want things to change.

I love her so much. I love the way she is right now and even though I know there’ll be lots of fun ahead…. I’m not ready for that.

I was thinking about the school run. We’ve always gone together. Me, her and the twins. All three of them have always worn the same uniform and they’ve always been together. Not any more.

The last time all together in school uniform! (*sobs again!)

In September, my twins won’t have their big sister with them when we leave for school. We will go without her. She will walk to her new school.

After school when the twins come out first, we won’t walk across to her classroom to wait for her. She won’t be there.

Everything will change and I don’t want it to.

I know I should embrace it and I will of course. I’ll have to.

But it all makes me so sad.

Time is passing way too fast. In the blink of an eye my children will be all grown up and it’s hard to accept.

This summer I want to spend every second with my beautiful Girl and breathe in her young loveliness while it’s still there.

Then in September, I will watch with pride (albeit choking back the tears) as she puts on her new uniform and heads out the door, ready for the next new chapter in her life.

How Mum’s can have a positive impact on a childs’ future

A mother is one of the most important people in a child’s life. Your actions can have far reaching consequences for your son or daughter in years to come. The people they hang around with, the lifestyle they lead and the work they do are just some things you may have an influence on. Below are some of the most important ways a mum can ensure that they have a positive impact on their child’s life.

Help Develop Your Child’s Skills and Talent

If your child has a keen interest in a particular activity, you should look at ways to help them. For some people, it’s a sporting activity, for others it’s music and others may have developed an interest in something else altogether.

In the case of parents who realize their child may be a gifted athlete, there are scholarships and organizations available such as Athletes-USA who help parents and young athletes to progress to the next level and introduce them to professionals in their chosen sport. The organizations that offer these services are worth researching and contacting, so that you can find out if your child could be a suitable match for their requirements.

Always Be Positive at Home

If a child is surrounded by positive people from a young age, they are more likely to grow up always looking on the bright side of life. The opposite is true if a parent is too demanding of their child, reprimands them a lot or continually bullies them.

Encourage Communication

Developing proper communication skills at a young age is vital. These skills will be used many times in the future to build relationships, deal with other people and ensure that your child develops to their full potential. If this communication is not encouraged and fostered when an individual is younger, they may miss out on a lot of the opportunities life has to offer them.

Encourage a Healthy Lifestyle

A healthy diet is essential when a child is growing up. If they are accustomed to eating healthy meals on a regular basis and avoid eating junk food, they are more likely to be more health conscious later in life. The same is true for the drinks we drink when we are younger. Kids should be made aware of the importance of always staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water rather than soft drinks or other drinks that have a negative effect on our well-being.

Leading a healthy lifestyle is not confined to the food and drink we consume. The activities we take part in are also important. If a child is used to taking part in outdoor activities, group activities and activities that benefit their physical and mental health, they will be more likely to continue to take part in these activities later in life.

Mums play a huge role in their child’s life. Unfortunately, many parents don’t understand just how important their actions are when their child is young. Following the tips above will ensure that you build the best foundations possible for your child, so that they live a happier, more fulfilling life as they get older.

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Insure with Max

When we think about life insurance, it’s usually about OUR lives. In case the unthinkable happens to US and we can’t work to pay the mortgage, rent and bills.

But what if the unthinkable happens to one of our children? I know it’s almost too difficult to even contemplate, but what if it did?

What if THEY are suddenly (God forbid) struck down with a rare illness that needs round the clock care?

Who is going to provide that care?

Chances are, YOU will be the one who wants to be there for your child in these most agonising circumstances.

You will want AND need to be a tower of strength for your child and do all you can for them. What you DON’T want is to be riddled with worry about how you can possibly do that when you need to work to pay the bills. Even if your partner is still working full time, you still might not be able to makes ends meet and then what do you do?

This is a real, frightening situation that many families have found themselves in and it’s precisely this reason why Insure with Max was founded, to at least help with your financial worries so you can concentrate on giving the care your child needs and deserves.

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For as little as 95p per week (depending on family size and salary and subject to a minimum £49.50 premium), Insure With Max will bring you peace of mind, enabling you to get on with the important task of caring for your precious child.

Child Max, as the policy is known, will reimburse your take home salary for 12 months while you’re on unpaid leave. It’s also flexible to suit your needs. If you want to continue to work part time, the insurers will pay the shortfall between your take home salary and your new lower salary.

It’s very simple…

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Child Max is the brainchild of Max, an insurance man by trade whose own half sister passed away when she was 12 years old from a very rare illness. Max saw how financially difficult it was for his Dad and Step-mum, on top of the devastation of their child being poorly. His Dad asked him to come up with a form of insurance because when they wanted to be with their daughter and not have to think about anything else, they had to think about finances. 

I know this isn’t easy to think about, but if the worst was to happen, if you have Child Max, you will have one less thing to worry about.

If you want to know more, take a little look at the video below which explains…

We will be holding a Twitter Chat this Friday at 11.15am-12pm where we’ll be talking all things #ChildMax.. we’d love for you to join us and hear your thoughts on this. There’ll be prizes too so don’t miss out!

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