Teen is driving me mad at the moment. More so than usual, which is hard to believe but he really is.
Ever since he learned that at the age of 16 you are legally allowed to drive a moped, this is all he’s talked about.
He will be 16 on his next birthday, which is in a few months time, and yes, you guessed it… he wants a moped. He has been harping on about it for weeks now and to be honest, it’s driving me round the fecking bend!!
I don’t want him to have one.
The OH and I have categorically said NO.
Two reasons. But Teen is trying his best to get around these.
Reason 1 – The Cost
Mopeds are expensive. But Teen knows they aren’t THAT expensive in the grand scheme of things. You can pick up brand new ones (low end obviously) for around £450 and they increase from there, the one he has his eye on is around £700. Although this figure is bumped up once you add on the cost of the one day training for the licence, which is around £50 and then insurance, mustn’t forget that, which can be anything up to £300… not looking so cheap now is it?
To be fair though, Teen has thoroughly done his research (if only he spent this much time and enthusiasm on his school work!) and is a walking encyclopeidia for all that is moped driving. He must be commended really, the amount of time and effort he’s
wasted put into it! . He is bombarding us daily, no scrub that, EVERY SECOND, with all the different models and specs, all the different ways having a moped will benefit him AND US (hehe) and all the ways he’s going to find to pay for one… himself if he has to, he’s threatened. He is coming up with more and more genius ways of getting what he wants.
He says he will have money for his birthday and Christmas from us and he will save that. He knows that he can tell relatives to give him money (cheeky these Teens, I tell you!), which he will save, then he said…. and wait for it, this is funny… he says HE WILL GET A JOB!!!!!!! Errrr… right. Ok.
He knows that his National Insurance Card is going to come through the letter box any time soon, and then he can go and get a job… apparently B & Q (we have a big one round the corner) pay great rates if you work there on a Sunday??!!!! Sorry, this makes me chuckle to myself – him and his mates have all been discussing this and they’ve got it all worked out it seems!!!
Reason 2 – Safety
Ok. So even if we refuse to buy him one (bad parents!) he is insistent that he will get one anyway, once he’s saved up enough money. Which bring us to our trump card. The safety issue.
Teen is not trustworthy in my opinion. He’s a teenager after all. He can be very stupid at times and is the ultimate show off. Not a great combination for someone to be in charge of a fast moving vehicle that provides zero protection.
Again, Teen gets round this this by pointing out that basic mopeds only have a top speed of around 30-35 mph. Until the age of 18, young people are not allowed to carry a passenger and you aren’t allowed to ride mopeds on A roads….. (I think this is a lie though, I can’t find any information anywhere that confirms this!).
However, it doesn’t matter how much we try to explain the dangers and the statistics of accidents and fatalities in this age group (16 yr olds on mopeds) which are terrifying, have a read of this, …… he still insists he will ‘be fine’ and he will drive carefully.
To make matters worse, a friend of his already has one, it was his older brothers, and Teen can see how exciting it is but he doesn’t do himself any favours by telling me stories. For instance, he informed me that friends brother had numerous accidents on it. This doesn’t put Teen off though apparently. He said he has ‘had a go’ of said friends moped…. oh yes? That’s illegal for a start isn’t it?! He also thought it was funny that said friend gives his girlfriend a lift to school on the back sometimes!! Oh right… I thought you weren’t allowed to carry a passenger? But this is ok you see as Teen points out that how is anyone (meaning the police, I presume) going to know you’re only 16 if you’re both wearing helmets?!!!!!!
Yay, good point…. go for it!!
See what I mean?
Well. It’s fair to say that although it would be lovely for Teen to have some independence, as this is what it’s really all about, I cannot allow myself to let this happen. I would be worried sick every second of the day if my beloved, worshipped son was out on a moped. And yes, he can be very mature at times, but I don’t think he’s sensible enough to drive carefully, especially when he’s with friends. It’s not just him though, it’s other drivers not being careful around him, drivers that forget they’re driving around and possibly overtaking my boy at 50mph or more in a killing machine. And like I said, no protection whatsoever for the poor young person on a moped.
But because Teen won’t take no for an answer, the OH has warned him that if he insists on buying one (which I don’t think he’s capable of saving enough money to anyway!) and he sees him on the moped, he will drag him off it. If he sees a moped parked anywhere near our house, he will remove it and take it away. Harsh? Just proving a point that Teen really can’t do as he pleases.
OH has suggested that Teen just wait another year and to save up his money to put towards a better car. We will be happy to, and have promised, to buy him a car next year when he is ready, another year older, surely more mature, and in which he will hopefully be much safer in the event of a crash (god forbid).
What are your thoughts on this? I guess it depends on the individual, but would you allow your 16 yr old to have one?