This photo was taken a couple of weeks ago on my lovely little twins birthday. My cherished boys, O and H were four this year. These costumes we bought from the Disney Store, O is spider man (obviously) and H is Iron Man (less obvious unless you’re a Marvel fan!) they loved these costumes, in fact I think they were their favourite presents by far!
It was an unusual birthday really as far as my kids birthdays are concerned. I have always done a party for both my older children, sometimes I’ve gone completely over the top; venues, entertainers, caterers, expensive cakes and party bags…. But for my twins birthday this year we did nothing.
We made the decision to do nothing based on ONE fact.
Anyone who’s read my blog before would know that O and H are very shy.
Painfully, ridiculously shy.
When they go to other children’s parties they absolutely HATE the cake and food part. They cringe at the mere thought of sitting around the table in such close proximity to other ‘guests’…. where they may have to actually SPEAK to someone that they have not chosen to. They tolerate the playing part and usually have fun (once they settle) but all gathering together for the cake is too much for them.
Therefore after much deliberation we opted to have a quiet affair. We decided a party would be the wrong thing to do. I mean can you imagine? THEM being centre of attention at their OWN party?? This would be their worst nightmare for sure.
I did want to do a party too as the twins have been to nursery this year and it would’ve been nice to get all the kids together before going back to school.. but no, it wouldn’t have gone well and would’ve been a complete waste of money and effort.
Presents wise we didn’t go overboard either. Again, we do usually go over the top in this department… buying presents in dribs and drabs then realising we’ve spent a small fortune and the kids have squillions of gifts to open…. (just the way I like it!) but again a waste.
We didn’t know what to buy. They hadn’t asked for anything in particular and having two older kids we already have LOADS of toys already, my god the house is practically bursting at the seams with every type of toy going and other plastic monstrosities!!!! Pointless buying more of the same.
We bought a few things to open and decided we’d take them out to Toys R Us on the day and let them choose some more presents that they really wanted.
They (as usual) loved wondering round Toys R Us (in their superhero costumes – but with their masks on lol), they could spend all day in there. They usually choose a bike to cycle round on, for hours. But when it came to it, they didn’t really WANT anything. Of course we bought a few things to take home but even then, they played with them initially and haven’t looked at since.
The point is, I have felt terribly guilty for what I deem to be a lack of effort made for TWO of my childrens’ birthdays. We spent less on the twins that we would normally on ONE of the other two. We DID less on the twins birthday than we normally would on one of the other two. We bought a ‘normal’ supermarket cake instead of having one made…..
But my guilt isn’t justified.
My beautiful twins had a fantastic day. They had everything they wanted and needed. They had a few presents which they actually played with rather than being overwhelmed with and not knowing where to start. They had a yummy chocolate cake which they loved and had no idea what the cost of it was, and they spent the day having fun, playing with us and their older brother and sister.. they were surrounded with love.
And I guess that’s something money just can’t buy……