Teenager’s First Holiday with Friends & being Grateful for Social Media

teenagers first holiday

So the time has come. My 18 year old son has gone off on his first holiday abroad.

When children are small, you can’t imagine them doing something like this. Nor can you imagine EVER allowing them to… the thought of it is just too much.. so scary and worrying and it’s like they’ll never be old enough to even consider it anyway….. Our babies being in a foreign land without us to look after them and make sure they’re safe? No way!

I know we’ve heard it before but feelings don’t change just because children grow up. I still see my gorgeous, precious baby boy when I look at Teen. I still worry about him every waking moment… now more than ever! At least when they’re small we know where they are all the time! When they’re out there in the big wide world it’s scary for us parents!

But we have to let go. Unfortunately.

Teen is an actual adult now. Not that he acts like one you understand. He’s still incredibly stupid at times and does silly things.. I could write a post as long as my arm listing daft things he’s done and situations he’s got himself into…. he drives me nuts!

The day before his holiday he bleached his hair! It turned a lovely (not) shade of yellow which made him look like a right weirdo but he thought it was brilliant, and of course he’s right when he says it’ll grow out in a matter of weeks! He likes to push boundaries in all aspects of life and I guess when we were young, we all did crazy things too… it’s all part of growing up!

Eminem springs to mind!

At the same time though, Teen can be sensible when he needs to be and can certainly look after himself, as well as anyone else. So I’m hoping he has this sensible hat on most of the time (hmmm) he’s away and keeps his wits about him because being on holiday with a load of mates, drinking and most likely going a bit crazy… I do worry, a LOT!

He’s gone to Outlook Festival in Croatia. Not just a holiday then, A FESTIVAL!!! There’s been boat parties booked and DJ’s lined up that he can’t wait to see… there are loads of people going that he knows, girls and boys, not just his little group, which makes me feel a bit better… safety in numbers and all that… but it DOES sound like it’s going to be one long, alcohol fuelled, insane week of paryting! (I’m a bit jealous, ha!).

He’s been so excited about it! He wanted to go to this particular festival last year but he wasn’t old enough. Had to be eighteen. Not sure I would’ve been comfortable with that though, he seemed so much younger last year…. but he didn’t go so that’s ok! This week I spent my time making sure he had everything he needed, all his clothes were washed and ironed (I spoil him), and he’d packed everything. I’d made lists for him so he didn’t forget stuff and generally fussed around, feeling anxious.

His flight was very early in the morning and he was staying at a friends house the night before as they were all getting a taxi from there. I have to admit to not sleeping a wink, worrying that he’d forgotten something, but, and this is certainly a plus side to having social media…. I was checking his SnapChat continuously and could see he’d got to the airport, checked in and was eating the obligatory airport fry up for breakfast! Phew!

He messaged me from the plane when he got on to let me know they were taking off and then when they landed, bless him. I was glad of this. How parents coped in the past with no mobile phones is beyond me!

I’ve been keeping up with everything so far via his SnapChat and Instagram. I’ve seen inside their villa, the beach, the DJ’s, the amazing looking festival at night and the drunk friends haha! Feeling thankful for social media right now…. it’s such a godsend in times like these. When teenagers start going out and about, no matter where it’s to, just being able to see some kind of update somewhere means that they’re ok. Peace of mind. We’ve also been messaging here and there and I can confirm he’s having a great time!

Of course he ran out of money fairly early on…. I’m annoyed that he hadn’t budgeted at all but I’m not surprised one bit. I received lots of nice phone calls and Face-times that day, buttering me up so he could ask me to transfer him some money!! Teenagers are REALLY good at this! I got the ‘But I can’t buy any food and I’m starving’ spiel and the ‘I’ll pay you back I promise’ line that I hear more times than literally any other sentence known to man! Again, technology comes to the rescue in the shape of banking apps on our mobile phones, so I was able to transfer some money to him instantly and he could immediately see it in his account. A friend of mine used to work in a travel agency years ago and she said the most common thing that happened in her store was parents coming in to send money to their teenagers who were on holiday!!!! At least I didn’t have to leave the house! He WILL be paying me back though ;) Famous last words!

Anyway, he’s due back soon. Thank goodness! Not sure I could afford for him to stay out there any longer hehe! I’ve been keeping up with Outlook Festival hashtag itself on Insta, Snapchat and Twitter… it’s funny seeing lots of random people who I know will be there with, or least in the same vicinity as my boy, giving me some great insight. I just wish I had all his mate’s Snapchat accounts so I could nosey at those, ha… a bit stalkery I know but that’s what you need to resort to as a parent of a Teen….  I used to insist on knowing his passwords when he was a younger teen but they get to a certain age and you obviously can’t do this any longer… they do need their privacy, much to my dismay! Of course I would never add his mates on social media…. they would laugh in my face and probably think I was creepy!

I can’t wait to see him upon his return and give him a big squeeze and kiss! He’ll be so happy to be back home but will probably need to sleep for a week… meanwhile I’ll be ploughing through his washing! I don’t care though, we’ve all missed him so much and all I want is for him to be home safe and sound.

I know we’ve heard it before but feelings don’t change just because children grow up. I still see my gorgeous, precious baby boy when I look at Teen. I still worry about him every waking moment… now more than ever! At least when they’re small we know where they are all the time!

Another milestone reached and passed in my son’s life!

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Comments

  1. Sounds like he had a great time, and good old bank of Mum to the rescue!

  2. My teenage daughter went abroad without us for the first time this year. Your right. No matter what age they are they are still your babies. Trying to find the balance of letting them press their wings and keeping them close and safe is hard.
    Ps. Good thing about your sons hair is he is remember able.

  3. Oh, I can’t even imagine the mixed emotions when your baby grows up and starts doing things like going on holiday on their own! Such an exciting experience for him…. but I know my mind would be in overdrive worrying! Like you say though, it’s good that we now have social media to keep in close contact. I used to go away with my friends and call my family once during a whole week if they were lucky because we’d have to queue up for phone boxes etc.

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