My 3 Blogging Bugbears

I love blogging, I really do. But these past few months I’ve been a little bit fed up with it.

And here’s why:

1. Time

This is a biggie. Blogging is no where near as easy as people may think, it’s incredibly time consuming and I could really do without it sometimes.

It was only ever meant to be a little hobby, whereas now it feels more like a full time job at times, and a very demanding one at that! Finding time for it has become increasingly challenging.

This intensified over the Christmas period, as I was busy with family life on the one hand, and wanting to chill out and do nothing but relax on the other. I had a backlog of posts I needed to get out and reviews to write up which was stressing me out immensely. Having a dinosaur of a PC and a virus riddled laptop to deal with didn’t help matters either… (the latter has since been rectified).

Ordinarily I spend my days either at work, keeping our home in order or looking after four children, including young twins and a high maintenance teenager (yes, they get a lot more demanding as they get older!).

My twins are struggling slightly at school, being the youngest in their year, so I’m spending more time going over reading and writing with them. My daughter is getting ready to take her 11+ exam this September (when she’ll have just turned 10.. go figure), so we are going over the dreaded verbal reasoning and maths. And Teen is taking his GCSE’s in 3 months time which means I’m having to constantly get on his case to revise.

Plus…

We are in the middle of a mammoth building project on our home as the extension has taken a new turn and started up again with a vengeance. We ran into some issues, roof related, a while back and things came to a standstill temporarily but work has now resumed and the whole house has turned into a building site! We’re still trying to live some sort of normal life whilst everything around us is literally crumbling!

So, at this very moment, time is a massive issue.

2. Guilt

If I sit down and watch TV of an evening, I feel guilty. I should really be blogging and getting those posts out, or on social media, networking and/or promoting somewhere.

When I’m not working my part time job, I might steal a few hours during the day at home to blog, which is my favourite time to write, but then I’m stressing about other things I should be doing around the house and feel guilty!

Posts need thinking about. I often find myself rushing if I have a deadline to keep to, and then I’m not entirely happy with the post. Which makes me feel guilty.

Yet, at the same time, I feel as though I don’t spend enough time on my blog. There are so many plans I made for it and lots of new ideas I’d like to implement but I just haven’t. And that makes me feel guilty!

And don’t get me started on the kids. More than anything, when my children are around, I want to be with them, doing things with them, even if it’s just watching tv with them….. I don’t want to look back in years to come and regret spending far too much time in front of a computer, or staring at my phone when the kids were little. The time they’re young goes so fast, I know this because I have a 16 yr old and it feels like yesterday that he was tiny. So if I do spend hours writing up posts when they’re around, I feel guilty.

3. Honesty

This has been troubling me for a while. It’s an issue that I didn’t really consider when I first started to blog but now it annoys the hell out of me.

I want to get personal.

I want to share more about me. Be more open.

But I can’t, because people read my blog! It’s a bit of a double edged sword. I mean, I WANT people to read my blog, of course, but because I’d like to write more about what’s going on my life; relationships, emotions, problems, opinions… as these are the things I believe my readers would appreciate, to help them connect with me, which in turn would be great for my blog….. But I don’t want CERTAIN people reading my blog! Or knowing about those things; people I know, people who I wish didn’t even know about this blog.

It WOULD make for interesting reading though!

I have to consider the children too. I don’t want to write anything that could be used in a negative way against them. Older kids are a lot less accepting. Something we may think is incredibly funny could be considered highly embarrassing for them! I’d like to write more about my Teen… there are some hilarious stories there, as well as some serious issues… but I can’t. He wouldn’t like it and I must respect that. The odd post is fine but I need to be careful, just in case his friends happen to come across it one day, which wouldn’t be difficult, not with everyone being all over social media.

There’s a lot to be said about blogging anonymously! Maybe that’s something I should consider in the future, as a little sideline…..

So that’s it, my three main blogging bugbears.

Even though I’ve made a big deal of them, they won’t stop me from writing. I just have to work around these little issues and find a balance. Blogging is addictive and the positives far outweigh the negatives. And as I said at the top, I do absolutely love it. It’s the one thing I have that’s just for me. It’s still my guilty pleasure, however much it irks me at times!  It’s taught me so much and I love the opportunities I’ve been fortunate enough to receive through writing my blog, even more so the fabulous people I’ve met, and I’m grateful.

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Comments

  1. You’ve written exactly what I’ve been feeling. Towards the end of last year I was writing until 2am and just thought – enough! I’m trying to have far more time for me without the guilt but I’m so far behind on commenting and replying to comments on my blog already. I wish I could find the balance and hope you do too xx

  2. I can relate to every single one of these carolynne. I have such a love/hate relationship with blogging! I turn down a lot of reviews/events because I know that it will all become too much. I also have an issue over wanting to be more open but feeling restricted – anonymity all the way!

    • Mummy Endeavours says:

      Yes, I’ve found myself not wanting to do item reviews much anymore, but I do love an event, only if it’s of interest or something that the children will enjoy though. I’m just going to do my own thing and not worry about stats or promotion etc, because that’s not why I started… If I want to do a post I will, if I’m busy then I’m busy, not going to stress about it! And lets get those anonymous blogs started…. ;)

  3. I blog as a business now and therefore, I don’t really have blogging guilt. I don’t blog of an evening and also only really do what I want. I guess after seven years, you lose the guilt

  4. I suffer from all of these! I’ve watched so much Netflix lately and barely blogged, I feel so naughty but sometimes you’ve just got to take some time for yourself!

    Sara | This Girl Loves

  5. Cass@FrugalFamily says:

    I completely get what you mean and I think it might be good to step away a little bit and think about what you want out of blogging. I want nothing more at the minute that to enjoy what I’m doing so I decided that I couldn’t do everything well so I stepped back from Twitter a lot, gave up trying to learn Google plus and then reduced the number of reviews / posts that I agreed to.

    • Mummy Endeavours says:

      Good for you! Gosh, Google plus is not even on my radar yet! I was thinking I should definitely be on there but it’s not that big a deal any more, I’ll fathom it out when I have more time lol

  6. I thought this was going to be a post about blogging bugbears of what other people do (juicy!) but actually I agree with the time thing and a little with the honesty one too. Sometimes if I write something from the heart I worry that someone who knows me is going to say “are you ok, I read that post…” when actually I’m fine, I’m just getting stuff off my chest!

  7. yes I am with you on all of these and def number 3. I think when the kids are all at school I will start a anonymous blog and my main one will be more food focused x

  8. The time one is true for me too – it’s only a short post right now can it take so much time. But to get it right and to convey what you want it does take time. The guilt thing, well there’s always something else I could (or probably should) be doing but hey, sometimes blogging is what needs to be done. Hope you get to find the balance you’re after. #pocolo

  9. I’m So with you on the time and guilt issues. Since being pregnant I have lacked serious energy and have had to step back a bit which has actually put things into perspective. I am taking on less reviews and spending more time blogging about the kids (nice things of course!). Hope you manage to find the right balance

  10. Oh C i bet so many people relate to this post! All i think about in every situation is my blog! I hate it. I actually took a break over christmas and shut everything and everyone out (apart from Hubby and Daughter) and my god… i needed it! Because now i am back blogging, fresh.
    I also hear you on the honest and open subject….
    Well i am only down the road if you need a coffee and a natter!
    Oh and i hope the extension gets sorted xx

  11. Ditto on all three counts. After a manic end to the year reviewing all sorts, I have decided to be more picky. For me, blogging is hard work with no pay. But fun all the same.

  12. Great post – I’m sure this will resonate with many bloggers.

    I would struggle to publish more than one post a week because of time constraints but that’s fine with me as I’m primarily recording family memories. On the couple of occasions that I’ve accepted days out in return for reviews I’ve felt way too much pressure. So I think it’s very much about ensuring you’re blogging for yourself (unless of course you blog for a living).

    • Mummy Endeavours says:

      I think that’s it, because it’s not a career for me, that’s why it feels like I ‘waste’ (according to my OH) too much time on it! Maybe I need to turn it into a business then I wouldn’t feel so bad! ;)

  13. I can definitely see what you mean. I’ve never blogged to any sort of schedule or anything like that, so if I go a week without posting, I don’t stress. I’ve also found that my blog encourages me to do more with the kids, because then it gives me content, so for me it is a win win situation

    • Mummy Endeavours says:

      Yes I agree, when I was joining more linkies it definitely spurred me on, I should get back into the habit of doing that again x

  14. I can understand those points too. If only we didn’t need to sleep then we could work, blog and have fun!

    • Mummy Endeavours says:

      Ha that would be great wouldn’t it? Although I love sleep, I’m quite lazy really except I have no time to be lazy unfortunately haha

  15. Brilliant. I am with you on the guilt and time. I tend to blog on my phone from bed when I can’t kip but the rest of the house are snoring.

  16. LOL! I love that when time is an issue in your last point you come to the conclusion of starting another blog (oh how many times I thought of the same!). :oD ….and I also agree with every single point you’ve raised.

  17. pigeonpairandme says:

    It’s tricky getting the right balance, isn’t it. I’ve now decided to only blog when my children aren’t around – when they’re asleep, or in childcare/school. Still, I also do end up feeling guilty about the other things I ought to be doing! I suppose the question you have to ask is, what do you get out of it that’s positive? Is it enough to keep you going?

  18. I can relate to so much of what you have written. Blogging is a hobby for me and it takes quite a bit of my free time. My bug bear is when I see some blogs who have copied pictures or information from other blogs or google.

  19. I know what you mean. At the moment I barely find the time to do it and it bothers me more than I thought.

  20. YES! Although I make money from my blog quite regularly now so I structure my days to allow for this as best I can. I agree on the guilt so totally though. Honesty has never really been too much of a problem for me! Well done for writing this – I think you have said what a lot of bloggers feel. Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo x

  21. Ooh number 3 especially rings true for me! I still write about my three year old, but find I blog far less about my older two, and while I can moan about house moves or that sort of housing, I can’t write about days where I have the blues as my parents freak out and think I am depressed when it is just a bad day!

  22. I think the fun goes out of blogging when it starts to become a chore. Don’t feel guilty to watch Tv you may think of t as getting inspiration for a blog post.

  23. I have struggled with the amount of posts I had over Christmas and then Sebby was poorly. My teen is very concious of what I write too, so I have to be careful

  24. I think we all go through stages when we feel like giving it all up (not that you’re there) but in the end we love writing and that’s what keeps us coming back. Guilt is something every parent feels, no matter what you’re doing. Just go with it. And as for taking some time to watch tv, enjoy it. Live life, do things you enjoy and then when you can squeeze it in, blog about it. Xxx

  25. I totally get the honesty part. It is hard to find a balance and even harder if you are prohibited to share some facts… as a foster family we have a lot of limits put on some kids and total silence on others… it is getting so confusing at times…

  26. My blogging alongside so,e freelance work is my job so while the children are at school I get everything done enabling me to spend time with them when home…. However I do pop into social media a little too often! x

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